How are you sleeping? If you're like many of us, the answer might not be so great.

In today's fast-paced world, sleep often takes a backseat to our caregiving responsibilities, but the truth is, it shouldn't. In this episode of the Caregiver Cup Podcast, we're diving deep into the importance of sleep, why caregivers often struggle to get enough of it, and most importantly, how you can improve your sleep quality starting tonight.

Last Saturday, March 16, marked World Sleep Day, a perfect opportunity to shine a spotlight on the sleep issues facing caregivers. Shocking statistics reveal that a staggering 76% of caregivers report poor sleep quality, with dementia caregivers experiencing rates as high as 91.7%. These sleep disturbances aren't just inconvenient; they're linked to serious health issues like depression, anxiety, and fatigue.

So, what's causing all this sleep deprivation? For many caregivers, anxiety and depression play a significant role, leading to racing thoughts and frequent awakenings. The stress and challenges of caregiving only compound the problem, leaving many of us feeling overwhelmed and unable to rest. And let's not forget the self-induced factors, like caffeine, late-night snacks, and excessive screen time, that can wreak havoc on our sleep patterns.

But here's the good news: prioritizing quality sleep can have a profound impact on our well-being. From lowering stress levels to improving memory and reducing anxiety, the benefits of a good night's sleep are undeniable. By adopting simple strategies like sticking to a sleep schedule, creating a sleep-friendly environment, and addressing any underlying issues, we can take control of our sleep and reclaim our health.

I know it's not always easy to prioritize sleep, especially when you're in the thick of caregiving duties. But trust me when I say that it's worth it. By making small changes and focusing on what you can control, you can improve your sleep quality and, in turn, your...

Have you said to yourself :  Why don’t I have the energy like I used to have?   Or, I am so tired all the time.   

It’s called caregiver fatigue.   This occurs when you feel emotionally and physically exhausted.  You are wearing out.  You are feeling totally used up due to too many demands.  You are burning out.

• What are your emotional demands?   Your loved one is sick and you can’t make them better.  They demand an extreme degree of physical and emotional care.
• What are your conflicting priorities?   Who else needs your time and energy?   Your family, your children, your boss, your employees, your co-workers,  Trying to meeting everyone’s needs creates conflict and stress.  
• Do you feel ambiguity in your new normal?  You really don’t know exactly what to do, meaning your roles and responsibilities.   
• You workload.  What’s on your plate?  Are you trying to juggle everything?  
• What about all the advocacy responsibilities?  The insurance, medical decisions,  medical visits, doctor conversations and nursing questions.   On top of that, making the hard decisions on finances, home care, hospice care and estate plans.   
• Then there’s the lack of privacy.  Do you feel it?  There is no time to be alone.  There may be many people in and out of your home or your life assisting with some facet of the caregiving all the time.  

These factors may contribute to feelings  that you have no control, or that you don’t have adequate skills or knowledge in this area.  Feeling that you don’t have independence or “say so” in your life.   Feeling you can’t succeed, or that you’re a failure.

When burnout reaches a critical level, it begins to be very evident in your life.  Burnout can manifest itself in various ways, including: ...

Today's episode is all about you and your overwhelm.  The true facts about how this stress, anxiety, burnout and fatigue creep up on you and before you know it, you are in the thick of it and don’t know what to do.  

When I first became a caregiver, I let the adrenaline drive me through the overwhelm.  When that faded, I let my mind and body do the work.  Well looking back, I now see the 3 stages of overwhelm I went through and it’s toll it took on myself, my Loved One, my friendships and more.  

That’s why over the last month, I sat down and really did some digging into this subject.  I researched 100s of articles, interviewed caregivers and fead all my journal entries, text messages, facebook post on where I was at.

So today, I want to highlight the 3 stages of caregiver overwhelm - the whats, the why, the hows and more.    You can find the entire resource at cathylvan.com/caregiverstress

1. Caregiver Stress
2. Caregiver Burnout
3. Compassion Fatigue

Overwhelm is reality.  It’s hard, It sucks but it can be a joyful and rewarding experience.  So when you run over that nail or screw,  think about how you want to fix it vs just putting air in your tire.  Get in front of your overwhelm by seeking help or tools to get you on the path to reducing the stress and anxiety.  

So grab my free resource at cathylvan.com/caregiverstress.   Let me help you through this journey.   It is important to look at your caregiver cup and control what goes in it.  You can’t pour from an empty cup.   

Send hugs and warmth your way.   Talk to you again next week.